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Episode 8 - "Get Closer" with Jeff Chernin, PhD

Hey guys! This episode is all about improving communication patterns and dynamics in your relationships. I dive deep with L.A.-based psychotherapist and author, Dr. Jeff Chernin, about his must-read book, “Get Closer: A Gay Men’s Guide to Intimacy and Relationships.” If you’re in a relationship, you want to be in one or you’re learning from one that just ended, this episode is for you. Tune in to hear Dr. Chernin and I talk about…

  • What to do when you and you’re man are in a “Pursuer-Withdrawer” pattern

  • How to balance out differences in power that show up around money, status

  • Taking responsibility for our part in unhealthy dynamics including infidelity

  • Setting your partner up for success to meet your needs

  • Identifying your “hidden goals” and “secondary gains” that block your intimacy

  • What contribution you’re making to your “not enoughness”

  • The benefits and advantages of being gay couples

  • How gay, bi and queer men are leaders of negotiating healthy sexual lives together

Learn more about Jeff Chernin’s work, his books and articles at www. and on Facebook.

Get your copy of Get Closer here and start learning how to have healthy relationships and more intimacy with your man.


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